You cannot live your life for everyone sometimes it even includes your family!! You were put here for only one’s purpose and that’s for The Lord our God. In most cases more often than not, we try to please others, stroke their egos to make them feel good of their deposit into your life, and in your heart, you know they are just not right. There are people who become bullies, control freaks, know it all’s, the un-trainable, and the un-obtainable. These types of people must be center of attraction, attracts many people, but go through so many friends, and even will distant loved ones, never seeing themselves as a fault of an ending relationship, can never take constructive criticism, and can never be wrong! These types of people have prideful issues, grudge holding issues, oh perfect me issues, but stand behind closed doors with a heart full of tears, because they just can’t seem to see why things happen to them.

Let me start here: Giving; giving comes from the heart, giving is to be a gift to another, a deposit into one’s life to help them in their next moment, thought, decision, or even their journey. God gives us all the ability to give and be able to bless others, the blessing of deposit does not have to be monetary, it can be a word, love, company, encouragement, wisdom, whatever you wish to call it, and it is never to be taken as being used. A person who must be in control, does not know how to not look back on a deposit, not feel like they are being used, nor can they take the back seat and learn from someone well advanced or even notice someone well advanced, young or old. Reaping what you sew, drop and go. Because you have given, put a stamp on it, done something elaborate does not mean you control that person or situation, it’s not yours, you were just a vessel ordered by God, to get it for them, or to get them going. I have encountered such people who feel the need to control friends, family, or anyone who doesn’t now they’re own “VOICE”, because these type of people validates this type of person

Beauty, Money, Hard Working, House, Cars, means nothing if you are not living right by God, you can not do God’s work and live in sin. The two do not go together, “Not everyone who says Lord, lord, will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my father who is in heaven, on that day many will say to me, Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name? (didn’t we help others, give to others) then will God declare to them, “I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness. In other words, you can’t think just because you smile on someone, give to someone, mention the Lords name to someone, etc…is suppose to sit well with God and you are living foul. Tearing down homes, speaking negative on his people, not dropping positive deposits on others, as well as giving and having a look of return deposit, and unhappy because it does not come. Don’t expect the kind of love that someone so simple gets. That simple person does not need a brag or boast, does not need a shout out, does not need a return deposit. That simple person is just happy doing the work of the Lord, to make a happy heart. What these people do not understand, is God will bless a simple person, and they don’t even look for it. The simple person will have all kinds of people just blessing them, just because they are “just” simple and is well with it. The one who has to shine, the one who has to have a name on it, grows tired, looks tired, grows angry, grows prideful, holds grudges, because the work they did, has not been given any acknowledgement. All they have given was nice, was major, was lavish, and maybe out of this world, But it never came with love, it came with it’s all on me, but here you go, it came with look what I did, but here you go…who do I run to, but here you go, all that I had to sacrifice, but here you go, and that’s not how God sees a child of his.

If you can not open yourself up to see beyond “YOU”, then you will forever be on your knees crying, why me, why do I continue in struggle, why don’t I get the things of a simple person. Most of all, you will always have to hide behind the hardcore but really weak representative outer shell. Don’t hide behind the one’s who can’t carry their own voice, or even too scared to speak their mind, because of your foul reaction. Actually, those are simple people too, who yet to know their self worth. Yet do not know how to handle someone who can’t handle themselves…

God Needs no “Validation”, his works speaks for himself….

I Need no “Validation” because his works through me, will speak for itself.

“You” will not need any “Validation” if you open your eyes.

Do you really need “Validation” to get to your next moment/Level??

Every day we complain of something, every day we compare ourselves to others, every day we wish this and we wish that, every day we stay in search of love, to be a part of someone’s life. We think a good job is Satisfaction, to who everyone else….he/she has a good job, why do we settle, is it out of laziness, lack of Faith, knowledge, perhaps too much television. You work a job for many many years and get complacent. Oh it pays the bills, I have a retirement building. There are complaints of food, clothing, Joy, There are people who has no clue of life, but what is dealt in front of them due to lack of knowledge, they say if you want to hide something to put it in a book. If God has it for you, he is going to make you find it, build it from scratch. I look at Madam C.J. Walker, real birth name:

• Sarah Breedlove. Born December 23, 1867 in Delta Louisiana Left this earth May 25, 1919 in Irvington-on-Hudson, New York, from complications of hypertension. Upon her death she was considered to be the wealthiest African-American woman in America and known to be the first African-American woman millionaire. Some sources cite her as the first self-made American woman millionaire. Her daughter Leila succeeded her as president of the Madam C. J. Walker Manufacturing Company. Madam Walker was an entrepreneur who built her empire developing hair products for black women. She claims to have built her company on an actual dream where a large black man appeared to her and gave her a formula for curing baldness. When confronted with the idea that she was trying to conform black women's hair to that of whites, she stressed that her products were simply an attempt to help black women take proper care of their hair and promote its growth. “I got my start by giving myself a start.

• I am a woman who came from the cotton fields of the South. From there I was promoted to the washtub. From there I was promoted to the cook kitchen. And from there I promoted myself into the business of manufacturing hair goods and preparations. I have built my own factory on my own ground.

• I had to make my own living and my own opportunity. But I made it! Don’t sit down and wait for the opportunities to come. Get up and make them.

• One night I had a dream, and in that dream a big black man appeared to me and told me what to mix up for my hair. I made up my mind I would begin to sell it.

• I am not satisfied in making money for myself. I Endeavour to provide employment for hundreds of the women of my race.

• There is no royal flower-strewn path to success. And if there is, I have not found it for if I have accomplished anything in life it is because I have been willing to work hard.

• Perseverance is my motto.

Madam C.J. Walker is an incredible inspiration for me, for anyone, she was determined and had children to care for. Her world back then was definitely worse than what we even have or complain about these days. Everyone was given a God given talent, and laziness plays a big part, she went from cotton fields to washing tubs, to the kitchen. She used all that money and hard work to start her multimillion dollar business. You can’t tell me you can’t do it, I know I am so tired of working my job and like her, It’s a stepping stone to my Blessing, to my purpose, to my happiness. I refuse to believe my daily routine of clocking in and out is all I have in this life. Thankful for my job, but I’m going after what has been set for me. It’s Dare y’all and if I leave you with anything, I leave you with this, It is never too late…

A strong person knows how to keep their life in order. Even with tears in their eyes, they still manage to say i'm ok with a smile; they will take your problems and their problems and figure them out. They will take all the pain and yet manage to stay "Beautiful", they will turn the other cheek, pray for you, check on you, Love you. A strong person will seek more guidance, knowledge, truth. Never will they be boastful, Prideful, envious, yet they will praise, help, give, seek, motivate, and feed. They will express truth, stay humble, cry behind doors, get up and have a great day, believe. A strong person never takes no for an answer, will not be broken down, does not believe in the words I can't, and won't let you believe either. They will show you, you just through love and never have to say a word. God is not telling you to turn for nothing; he has not given you a guide to just ignore. Ever given up and all worked in your favor, ever given up and because of emotion you acted out terribly, with terrible results. Finding out in the end, it still was working in your favor, but you lost patience and acted out too soon, acted on those emotions that were boiling up inside, and all you had to do was pray, and pick up that guide. I once failed, picked up my guide, put it down, failed again. what is it, "Seven" times. Seeking Krazy Glue now, by far am I perfect, but I get what only works for me, and it's not "ME". Picking up my guide once again!! Go find yours...